这是一位留英回国的创业明达（笔名）女士所著作品，书中深入浅出地阐述了‘幸福’是什么？并带您去寻找幸福！明达女士在国外留学工作了十几年，去过很多国家，以她自身的经历、艰辛与感悟撰写了这部作品。
她曾说过现在的孩子不读书，不喜欢读书，这是一个很大的损失，不仅是对社会更是对自己。明达女士在新加坡学习时，曾经读过一层图书馆的书籍，可见她渊博的知识面与深厚的各领域功底。
本头条从今日起，将以中英文形式，连载转发明达女士的文章《了然自我》，带领广大读者走近明达女士的这本书中，去探索你生命的价值；陪伴你去找到幸福的；向你的人生目标前进……
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《了然自我》
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2. 用你的心去定义“幸福”
去探寻你的内部需求？用内心去问和回答自己下列问题：
为什么我不快乐？
对你来说此刻什么是重要的？
什么事情是你最期望去做或最期望达到一定程度？
你想达到什么程度？
什么事情阻止你去获得你想要的
我需要什么条件去获 得我想要的？
我有什么条件和我不具备什么条件？
是否有其他可取代的方式能帮我获得我想要的？
我希望多久能实现它？我的方法是否可行？为什么可行？为什么不可行？
我感到幸福吗或至少我感到轻松了吧？
我自己的幸福是什么？
我的幸福是 ————————
3.幸福在你心中
大多数人问：“我怎样才能追求到自己的幸福？” 为什么在生活中我从来没有过幸福的感觉？” “我一生都在寻找幸福，可我没有找到。‘’
”幸福在你心中幸福不在那儿。幸福没有藏在哪儿。幸福是在你心中。亚里士多德（公元前384年-公元前322年）指出幸福的获得靠是你自己。
你不能创造幸福。你一直在找但就在你的心中。当父母为你准备了晚餐或是一直在等你回家时，你会感到幸福；当你的孩子变得成熟时，你能感到骄傲。现在你知道幸福来源于你的内心，来源于你对生活中一切事物的态度。
2. Using your own scale in your heart to define “happiness” – to find your inner demand
Using your heart to ask yourself and answer the following questions:
Why am I not happy?
What things are important for me at the moment?
Which thing do I expect more to be done or to be achieved at the certain level?
Which level do I want to achieve?
What things stop me to achieve what I want?
What conditions do I need to achieve what I want?
What conditions do I have and what do I have not?
Any alternative way can help me to achieve what I want?
How long time do I expect to achieve it? Is it feasible? Why is it feasible? Why is it not feasible?
Do I feel happy now or at least do I feel kind of relief?
What is my own happiness?
My happiness is
3. You cannot find happiness, but you can create happiness yourself
Most people asked, “How can I pursue my happiness in my life?” “Why I never find my happiness in my life?” “I have been looking for happiness in my whole life, but I could not find it.”
” You cannot find happiness, but you can create happiness yourself.
Happiness is not there and waiting for you. Happiness is not hiding anywhere you miss. Happiness is created by yourself. Aristole (384BC-322BC) posits that happiness depends upon ourselves.
Happiness does not exist before you create it. What you are looking for is nothing and something which does not exist. However, you can create your happiness. You can put smile in your face. You can feel love when your partner prepared the dinner and was waiting for you. You can feel pride when your child is becoming more mature. Now you know happiness is from inner you and is from your attitude to everything in your life.
作者：明达
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